Change is not something that we readily accept. For most of us, change is something that we avoid because we are so comfortable with what we are or where we are that trying to take a step away from our comfort zone is difficult. We don’t like to change the way we dress because we are already used to the kind of clothes we wear. We avoid the company of other people because they don’t act and think the way our friends do. We stop doing a certain task because it’s not just our usual thing. What we fail to realize is that change is necessary for us to grow and to develop as a person.
Understanding the process of change
The process of change is definitely not easy and a person does not undergo total change overnight. Change is a gradual process and when a person is going through a transition stage, it takes one aspect of him to change at a time. For instance, having a new job would require a person to adapt to certain changes in the kind of responsibilities he will have, people he will need to relate to, rules and policies he will have to follow and many more. When we don’t like most of these changes, we tend to develop negative attitude towards them. In the case of relating with people, there will be a tendency for us to isolate ourselves because we are unwilling to accept people when they are different from us. When there are new responsibilities that seem inappropriate for us, we become defensive and would tend to consider the job as inappropriate for us as well. And if there are policies which are so hard for us to accept, we begin to be irresponsible as to not follow them.
Why is change difficult?
It is a great struggle to leave behind our usual ways to give way for the new ones. There are times when we just want to give up by retreating to our comfort zones and to not face what we have to face. We develop fear, intimidation and a sense of worthlessness which leave us hopeless and unable to move on. Our resort is to wallow in self pity and drown ourselves to depression.
We are more than conquerors
Good thing we have God on our side. Philippians 1:6 says “Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” From the time we have accepted Christ into our hearts, He has been changing us by dealing with the aspects of our lives that make us weak. It is through struggles that He is refining us. The best thing about being with God is that we don’t have to carry the loads ourselves. We just have to surrender everything to God and let Him change us. We don’t have to worry about how long we can keep Him on our side because He is definitely going to stay with us until the end. What we need to do is to stop doubting and start trusting that He will be able to change us; that even though the process of change is difficult and causes us to struggle, we will be able to overcome everything in the end and come out victorious.