We all have our list of pet peeves in life. Although ministers are expected to listen to the grumbles of Lord’s people, pastors have a list of expressions that we feel are used by people to get their way. Most of them think that they should have been taught courses on it in seminary.
Pastor Joe McKeever shares a personal list of some of the worst things he's heard from their church community.
He’s not there to meet your needs. Jesus does that. The pastor is there as a shepherd to watch over the entire flock and to see that healthy food is available and safe procedures are in place. He’s there to make you holy, not happy.
2. "I’m not being spiritually fed"
Babies have to be spoon-fed. Adults can feed themselves. Since I’ve been able to read the Bible for myself and study God’s Word independently, I’ve not depended on the pastor to burp me.
3. "I have a right…"
The Christian faith is about the grace and mercy of God. We thank God He does not give us what we deserve. Faithful believers show the same kind of dedication and love to one another. But at no point is a child of God to insist on his rights.
If we got what we deserve, we would all be in hell.
4. "I’m not one to gossip, but…"
That’s always the prelude to gossip.
When I was a young pastor, one lady in the church would confide, “Now, I know you would want to know….” It was her way of passing along gossip.
Stifling the urge to pass along the latest trash on someone in the church is one of the hardest skills to acquire. Only the mature can pull it off.
5. "Now, I’m not saying who, but some people are unhappy about…"
Anonymous criticism is one of the most cowardly things ever concocted in hell. When the pastor asks, “Who exactly is this you say is unhappy?” his critic answers, “Well, I’m not at liberty to say.” (At that point, the preacher should then get up and show his visitor the door. “This conversation is over, friend.” And if they don’t leave, the pastor should.)
Lay leaders should teach the membership never ever to bring anonymous criticism to them or to their ministers.
6. "I gave the money for that, so I’ll make the decision as to how it’s to be used"
Once our gifts are in the offering plate, they belong to the Lord and His church. The donor relinquishes all control and is entitled to nothing as a result. (Even the IRS agrees with that. Money given to a mission program or to benevolence cannot be dictated by the donor. Church procedure decides how it will be used.)
7. "Sorry. I don’t have a gift for that"
Every believer can serve in a hundred ways, whether we are “gifted” in a particular area or not. No one requires a specific anointing of God to share their faith or make a gift or pray a prayer or teach a class.
8. "Why don’t 'they' do something?"
A friend says three groups of people can be found in every congregation. There are consumers: “Just browsing.” There are customers: “We come to this church because of the music program” (or children’s, missions, Bible teaching, etc). If you cancel that program, they leave. And there are the shareholders: Announce a work day and these are the ones who show up. You build a church with the shareholders, not with the other two groups, although most of the latter were one of the former previously.
Now, some preachers have been known to tyrannize congregations, so let us admit that up front. There is no place for that in the household of God. However,Acts 20:28says the Holy Spirit makes the pastors the overseers of the church, andHebrews 13:17calls on us to submit to those who are over us in the Lord.
Personally, I’d be careful in accusing the pastor of being a dictator. I keep thinking of a time when the charge was made about me. The church’s building committee had decided we needed to renovate our aging sanctuary and I supported the decision and, as pastor, became the spokesman for the effort. In short order, some began to accuse me of engineering this project (for what reasons I could never discern) and ramrodding it through. Go figure.
10. "I don’t know what the Bible says, but I know what I believe"
Each believer should bring our convictions and beliefs under the Lordship of Jesus and the authority of God’s Word. If we are holding onto a doctrine or belief about which Scripture says otherwise, the spiritually mature will jettison the faulty conviction and stand on the Word. The immature and carnal will insist that being true to his own beliefs–flawed as they are–is the highest form of faithfulness.
I suspect that one of the greatest tests of maturity and faithfulness in the Kingdom is the ability to receive correction from the Word of God, even to the point of giving up cherished beliefs and doctrines we have held dear but now see as mistaken.
Let us bring every area of our lives under the Lordship of Jesus Christ.